“Feeling like a failure has little correlation with actually failing… Here’s the essential first step: Stop engaging with the false theory that the best way to stop feeling like a failure is to succeed.” – Seth Godin
EXPLORE | Don’t Waste a Failure
If you read Seth’s blog, you know that he is short and to the point–which is one reason why I think he is so appealing.
This particular post reads like a good coach’s pep talk. He points to what we should do with our feelings of failure, and that hurrying up and suceeding at something to not feel that way any more is not how we should respond.
To this I would encourage a proper vetting of how we feel. Bottom line, we need to get to the truth.
Assuming a healthy definition of both success and failure, consider too that success doesn’t mean you’re not a failure. That’s how far away we can be swept by our feelings. Just because we succeed may or may not mean we’ve failed. In other words, success may not at all be the right metric. Failure may in fact benefit us more that we would be willing to admit.
Don’t waste a failure on how we feel, by ignoring it to instead take another run at the next “success.”
EXECUTE | Finding the Truth in Failure
While we don’t want to unnecessarily discount how we feel, we don’t ‘break through’ when we only believe what we feel.
Feelings can, and will, distract us from the truth. What we feel can change. What doesn’t change is the truth. Start there. Know the truth–about yourself, and your situation–and believe it. The truth sets us free from how we may be feeling when we actually believe it. That’s the clincher.
Believing the truth is a crucial aspect that I think gets over looked. Otherwise, we can easily assume that we do when in reality we’ve only observed or just acknowledged the truth.
In this case, understand what we need to about why and how you failed, believe the truth by applying the benefits of what we learned, which will keep us from overlooking the value in failure, and unnecessarily dwelling on our feelings.
[Original article: On feeling like a failure]